Are you in a new leadership role?
Maybe you’re struggling with being effective in your current leadership position?
I have 6 tips that will have you saying goodbye to stressful transitions in leadership where you wonder:
- Does my team like me?
- I want to make some changes, how can I do this and keep engagement up?
- Do I have buy in or will my team do what they want behind my back?
- How can I get my voice heard and influence from the get go?
- Are my 1-1s a good use of time? Am I leaving a good impression?
Listen in to avoid the common pitfalls I see and leave with the plan to have a team who respects you, stakeholders who seek your input, and a strategy to excel at a whole new level.
Note this episode was originally released in 2021 but is so relevant to the conversations still happening today. Give this episode favorite a listen.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Since this episode was originally released, there are more episodes that you can dive into to build your skills as a leader. Here are some other episodes I recommend:
- Ep 43 – How to be an Awesome Boss
- Ep 42 – The Perfect 1-1 Framework
- Ep 29 – Reporting to a New Boss
- Ep 10 – The 1 Leadership Behavior You Need
- Ep 191 – The 3 Leadership Skills You Need
- Ep 179 – What New Leaders Shouldn’t Do
- Ep 160 – A Leadership Hack to Earn Trust
- Ep 137 – Think Like a Leader
KEY TAKEAWAYS
This episode offers invaluable insights and practical strategies for excelling in a new leadership role or leveling up your current one. Whether you’re new to leadership or an experienced leader looking to sharpen your skills, these tips will guide you toward becoming the kind of leader others want to follow.
I cover psychological and mindset shifts as well as tactical strategies. To give you a glimpse, here is a high level of the 6 specific strategies I discuss.
6 Strategies to Succeed in Your New Leadership Role:
Create a Connection Plan
Don’t assume people will automatically trust or follow you. Take proactive steps to build relationships across all levels of your team and company. Identify key stakeholders, learn their communication preferences, and genuinely listen to their needs.
Keep an Open Mind
Avoid rushing into changes. Instead, assess what’s working well and remain flexible in your approach. Melissa shares her Start, Stop, Continue framework to guide thoughtful decision-making with your team’s input.
Use the Perfect One-on-One Framework
Consistent, meaningful one-on-ones are critical for building trust and ensuring alignment. Melissa developed a three-part framework—first meeting, regular check-ins, and quarterly reviews—that has proven to increase engagement and performance. Download the framework here.
Understand the Emotional Psychology of Change
Change is hard for everyone, and leaders need to be aware of the emotional stages that come with it. Melissa explains Kelly and Connor’s change model, showing how understanding the “valley of despair” can help leaders support their teams through transitions.
Be Approachable
Simply saying you have an open-door policy isn’t enough. Make sure your actions match your words. Being approachable involves creating an environment where people feel comfortable coming to you with concerns, while also respecting boundaries and managing your time effectively.
Manage Your Stakeholders
Map out your stakeholders—everyone from direct reports to peers to higher-ups. Understand their expectations and keep communication flowing. Melissa suggests using a tracking system to ensure you maintain regular contact and address the needs of all involved.
Listen to the full episode to dig deeper into these strategies and get more in-depth on this topic.
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Transcript
Hello and welcome to the podcast. Now, I have been getting a lot of questions about this topic that we are going to dig into today. So I am going to share with you some tangible strategies and tips that you can use right now when you are going into a new leadership role to be more effective from the first day that you start this role. And if you are already a leader, these tips and strategies are going to work for you, too. They are going to help you up-level your leadership skills. This is going beyond what your company training programs may be, what books are out there. These are really going to help you be a leader that people want to listen to, that they want to follow, that has a high performing team and really helps you be a great leader that just can skyrocket your career. So I can’t wait to share this information with you. So between my one on one clients, my Happy at Work Club, and just within my network, I’ve had several people reach out to me recently who are going into new leadership roles and wanting some guidance on how to start off on the right foot.
And I love this because I’ve actually had people reach out to me for one-on-one coaching proactively. And that they’re not necessarily unhappy or trying to fix a problem. They’re trying to proactively go into their role with the support, with the coaching. They want to have someone there to help them navigate difficult career situations that come up. They want to make sure they don’t repeat mistakes of prior roles. They want to make sure that they’re successful. And I love that energy and intention. So before we really dig in, I want to celebrate one of my clients, Lorraine. So Lorraine had come to me because She was overworked and stressed and just not happy in her job. She had a successful career in pharma, working in medical affairs, and despite this being her area of expertise and really a great career that she had built over decades, she knew it wasn’t her ideal career. She knew there was more for her and that she had these aspirations of having her own business, helping patients, but she didn’t really know what and how. And let me tell you, in less than four months, 16 weeks, guys, she had work-life balance again.
She was happier at work. She figured out what she wanted her business to be. We created a plan to make it happen. She has hope again and knows what her path is. And what I really love about the work that I do is you get to feel better right away. So if you’re feeling stuck and you’re not sure what your next step is, you don’t have to wait to know what that step is to feel better When we work together, we start looking at what are those quick wins, what are those things that you need right now to feel better as you’re going through this process. So Loreen hasn’t gone full-time into her new business yet. That’s something that we’re going to pick up in the new year. But she knows what she wants and has gotten more fulfilled in the job that she is in right now. She isn’t being controlled by others and constant demands and FDA audits. She’s feeling empowered and in control of her life now And that just makes a world of difference. So I just want to give her a shout out. Lorraine, if you’re listening, I’m just so happy for you.
Okay, let’s dig in. This is going to be juicy. So you have probably heard of psychological safety and how important it is. It’s really gotten a lot of buzz and traction over the last few years. And if you haven’t heard of this, then check out the work of Amy Edmondson. She’s a researcher and professor at Harvard Business School, and she does a lot of great work in this area. I started her work in grad school. My thesis was all about promoting psychological safety during times of change. So when you hear psychological safety, you might think, yeah, that’s important, but how exactly? Because it’s not something that happens overnight. It’s not something you just throw up on a poster. So these tips and strategies that I’m going to share with you today are going to promote a psychologically safe team and workplace from the ground up Because when you can start a new leadership role, it can be really nerve-wracking. You’ve got a new boss. If you’re in a new company, you have a whole new political landscape with direct reports or a whole new team that you have to earn trust with. And then you have your actual expertise, your technical expertise that you were hired to apply as well.
And this can be a lot of change to navigate. And I know not just from coaching leaders and developing them in my career, but from first-hand experience that it can be really hard. Years and years ago, I was a leader of five different satellite offices across the state of Wisconsin, back when I was doing child welfare consulting. And when I was promoted from direct management to being responsible for five offices, I also acquired some management staff that were reporting directly to me. So this was a new role within the same company. And this change was a shock for one of my new direct reports in particular, because I was a 20-something woman and he was a 50-something man, and he did not sign up to report to me. And he let me know it. So he was hired to report to our boss, who was a more seasoned professional, and had told me that straight out, it wasn’t my technical capability. It was really to do with me personally. It was more his discomfort and that he was too far in his career to report to someone my age. Yes, this happened. So this was a challenge, to say the least.
He was managing an office that was a couple of hours from my home base. And I talked to my boss and, of course, said, you need to get him in line. You need to tell him that he needs to get over this, right? I wasn’t that blunt about it, but pretty much wanted her to get his buy-in for me because she was the higher leader. And she, like an amazing boss that she was, and a good friend of mine to this day, didn’t do that. What she did is she told me that I needed to deal with it myself, and this was the first test of my leadership. She was there to support me to help win him over, but I needed to build that relationship, and I needed to get him on board. So I drove up to his location and spent a few days with him. We talked things through. I heard him out. I shared my goals, and it got better. And over the following couple of months, things continued to improve, and we went on to have a positive working relationship where he respected me as his boss, as uncomfortable as that was.
And I’m sure he didn’t like it, but I won him over by acknowledging him, by knowing his strengths, understanding his perspective, and creating ways of working that were a win-win for both of us. And this feeds right into the first strategy that I’m going to share with you, and that is to plan a connection strategy. Whenever you are working with a new team, whether it’s direct reports, new peers, new company, go in with a plan of how you’re going to make connections. As nice as you are, you can’t expect people are going to like you and trust your input, at least not right away. To some, this may be a threat. To some, you may have gotten a job that they wanted or felt they deserved. For some, you’re bringing change, and not everyone is on board with that. And we’re going to talk about the emotional effects of change in a little bit. So when you go in with a plan, you spend less time wondering what’s working and what’s not, if you’re talking to the right people, if you’re influencing the way you want to. So don’t wait for others to initiate with you.
One of the last things I did at my last corporate role was to make this type of plan. I made a point to meet with people of all levels across all different functions to get a better understanding of the landscape of the needs of the employees, the pain points, and what was going well. And this really helped me. It created strong relationships and buy-in. When I made changes, they were well-received, not just because they were good ideas, but because the people I spoke to knew that I had listened to them, that they were heard, that they had a voice, and that matters. So plan ahead. Who is important? What relationships do you want to have? How will you determine their communication preferences and ways of connecting? Ask other people, who should I meet? Who is important for me to know? And then cast your net wider. Go to the entry-level staff. Get a good idea of what it’s really like to work in your company or department. Connecting with others, showing appreciation for what they’ve done and where they are at is so important. You can’t go in with all of these ideas that you have for change without first appreciating what is currently there and connecting with people.
You can’t make assumptions about what is right or wrong because you don’t have the whole story. My clients who have used this approach have told me it works wonders because your leadership team or boss or peers may tell you who would be a good person to meet with or good people to meet with. But remember, that their opinion is their bias and their lens. And as a new leader or a leader responsible for your area, you have to think outside of the box because our brains are always going to go to what is familiar So you have to direct it to something less obvious. The people that others are going to recommend to you is based on their experience, their bias. They’re not you, and they have blind spots just like you do, just like I do. So make an effort to cast that wide net and make a proactive plan. So the next strategy is to have an open mind. I’ve seen countless times new leaders come in and want to do a full reorg to move pieces, also known as people around, to change processes because it’s what they know works based on their prior experience.
And the problem with this is the decisions that are being made to do that are from your bias You’re sensing a theme here, and without an appreciation for what is working. I know, grab your emotional first aid kit, you might not want to hear this, but I want you to spend some time understanding what is going well, to have an open mind about the way to do things. It doesn’t mean the way you’ve done them before that has worked is wrong. It doesn’t mean that’s not something that you will still do. But there can be more than one right and effective way. So I wouldn’t suggest instead of going in and wanting to make sweeping changes based on what you know works from your experience, do an exercise. One that I really like is the Start, Stop, Continue. I have done with the new teams and it’s worked really well. My clients that use this, it just always works wonderfully. And what you do is you bring the team together. You can decide who that team is. And you can do this virtually. You can do this in person. You can do it with Post-it notes.
You can make it super fun. But what you do is you ask for input on what are the things that we should start doing? That is the start. What are the things that we should stop doing that aren’t working? That’s the stop. And what should we keep doing that is working? That is the continue. Start, stop, continue. Then you take the information and you strategically look at changes you want to make. And this is brilliant because you have buy-in from those involved. You’re getting other people’s input, their ideas. You’re having an open mind, you’re facilitating that discussion. And then you have that window cracked to influence what you want to change. So this process always works. So have an open mind and explore what’s working before making judgments and making changes, because change is hard. And like I said, I’m going to be talking about that in just a moment. Okay, number three, use my one-on-one framework. I’m just going to say it. If you haven’t listened to that podcast, it’s one of my most popular. It’s called The Perfect One-on-One Framework, and it is a game-changer. So when I was in grad school studying organizational psychology, I studied leadership.
And I practiced different organizational development psychology tools and programs when I worked in the pharma biotech industry. Now, managers have such a critical role in the engagement of employees, and one-on-ones are a huge part of that. But most companies don’t have a standard, and the one-on-ones end up being sporadic and not value add for either person. So I did a pilot program with another company where we tested current state one-on-ones and then implemented a part of this framework and measured employee engagement and other performance indicators. We saw double the employee engagement, increased scores in leader communication, and understanding your role and future with the company, even in inclusion and diversity. What? It was awesome. It’s just like, it’s awesome. It worked so good. I’m so proud of it. It actually got used on a global scale because of how effective this process was that I had created. So the essence of it, really, I really want you to go listen to that podcast if you haven’t listened to it. But really what it is, is there’s three different types of one-on-ones. The one-on-one that you do when you have your first one-on-one with a new direct report, the one-on-one that is your standard one-on-one, there’s an agenda for that, and then your quarterly one-on-one, which is all about your engagement.
And you can use numbers or red, amber, green, different areas that are tied to employee engagement, belonging, performance at work, your company strategy. And I give guidance on these categories and an actual guide that you can download from the podcast. So I will include a link to that in this episode. I’ve had several people reach out to me and say that they’ve managed up and influenced their manager to use this framework, and it’s made a huge difference. I’ve had managers use this with their own teams and seen higher engagement and performance. And like I said, it continues to be one of my most popular podcast episodes. So let’s move on to number four, which is change psychology. This is what I was saying I was going to get into. It’s really important. So I wanted to talk to you about emotional psychology of change. And this is important because when any of us go through any change, especially navigating a new leadership position, you’re going through this And the people around you and your company are going through this. So there is a model that comes from psychologist Kelly Ann Connor. And if you know this and you normalize this, it can keep the organization from spiraling downward when change occurs.
So if I had you with me now, if you could see me, I would draw this out for you. But since that is not the case, I am going to describe this for you. So this model, imagine a U, like a curve like a U. And what happens is when change occurs, you will be uninformed and optimistic. Now, what does that mean? It means the people around you, let’s say someone on your team, one of your new direct reports, they don’t know you yet. They don’t know what you’re going to bring to the table. They don’t know what changes you’re going to make. So they’re uninformed and they’re optimistic because maybe they’re like, okay, this person is going to be great. They were hired for a reason. I’m excited to work with them. So everything is starting out great. But after a little bit of time, they fall into stage two, which is informed pessimism. And this means that they are now informed, as in they’ve worked with you for a little bit and maybe you’ve started to make some changes. Maybe you run one-on-ones differently. Maybe you don’t communicate in the way that they prefer, the way that they were used to with their prior manager.
Maybe you want to make some changes and they don’t really agree. So now they’re really more informed about what this change of you coming into the team is really doing. And so they’re feeling pessimistic about it. They’re like, I don’t know if I like this. The next stage is the valley of despair. And this is where a lot of people end. They stay within one, two, and three, the first three stages. And that is where they’re like, I can’t handle this. This person is too different. They don’t get me. I’m going to have to prove my worth again. They don’t understand. And this is where you’re going to find a lot of people trying to find a new job, getting disengaged from work. But if you stick with it, if you know that this is happening, if you are aware of this emotional psychology of change, then you know that the next stage is informed optimism, which essentially means when you push through that valley of despair, when you have support from your leadership understanding, when you know that your employees may be going through this and you are just empathetic to that and you address it, you have an open mind, you’re listening, you’re aware of it, you’re looking for it, then your employees can push through and have informed optimism where they’re like, okay, I know what this person is going to bring.
I know what this change represents, but I’m feeling like I can handle it. I’m feeling like it’s going to be good. And then the last stage is success and fulfillment. So if you follow this, from the top on the left all the way down to the valley of despair and back up to the right, then you’re going to get to success and fulfillment. But you have to go through all of those stages. And like I said, most people quit and repeat phases one through three. So this is really important for you to understand because you may be going through this yourself as well. So as someone that you are going into a new job, you might go into this and think, I’m so excited for my new job. And then you think, oh, my gosh, what did I sign up for? This is a lot of work. And then the valley of despair of like, oh, my gosh, I shouldn’t have left my job. I need to see if I can go back to that job. This was too much. This is more than I handle. This is more different than I thought. But then it’s pushing through, again, to that informed optimism and success.
So keep this in mind as you go through change and as you build relationships with your new stakeholders, with your new direct reports. And whenever you’re creating change within your department or organization, your employees, your staff are going through this cycle on some level. So the resistance isn’t necessarily them pushing back or not liking your idea. It’s just natural in their psychology. And they will come through the other end with the right support. Okay, number five is to be approachable. So I know being approachable is a no-brainer, but I have this on the list because I think people think they’re approachable when they’re not. They’ll say things like, I have an open-door policy, but that isn’t enough. So I want you to think about What would be approachable for you? What would someone have to do or say for you to feel comfortable to go into their office at any time to share with them a concern? What would they have to do for you to have that level of comfort? And a lot of approachability comes from your communication skills. When you’re having conversations, are you listening? Are you open-minded? Do you offer when and how people can communicate with you?
When people reach out unexpectedly, do you make an effort to be open and welcoming, or do you let them know how busy you are or how inconvenient the timing is? It’s important to not only state how to best communicate and get what others need from you, but also practice it in your actions. You can be approachable and have boundaries. So approachability doesn’t mean letting anyone walk into your office at any time, but it is being clear on when you’re available, holding your meetings respectfully, respecting other people’s time, and being open and present. The more approachable you are, the more comfortable others will be around you and will trust you, which is critical to effective leadership. So I can tell you about a leader that I worked with who said she had an open-door policy, said You can come to me anytime, but was always busy, always in chaos. And when you did go to her, it was often met with a smile and a, Let’s schedule some time, but the time never got scheduled. So you have to think about following through as part of your approachability. The experience you are having with people and the impression that they are getting because it is much more than words.
Okay, the last strategy that I want to leave you with is to manage your stakeholders. And this one is closely tied to having a connection plan But I think it is important to call it separately. So as an exercise, you can take out a sheet of paper and put yourself in the center like a nucleus and then branch off to that and jot down all of your stakeholders, which includes your direct reports, your boss, your matrix team members, any person or group that you provide a service to, internal or external. And this will give you a picture. And from there, think about how you can manage the expectations and needs for these people and groups. What do they need from you? How would they define success for you? You can ask them. Don’t make assumptions. I like to have a spreadsheet, but I’m super organized that way. So you can put all of your stakeholders in a spreadsheet with notes about them. Their ways of communicating, last time you spoke with them, any action items. It can help you stay organized and see visually if you have a stakeholder that you need to follow up with that you haven’t talked to in a while.
So keep those relationships warm. Okay, So that was my six strategies that will help you have a psychologically safe team foundation. And that is make a connection plan, have an open mind, use the one on one framework, know emotional change psychology, be approachable, and manage your stakeholders. And if you apply these, they really do make a difference in how effective you are as a leader. There is so much more that we should get into on this topic. Leadership development is such a passion of mine. If you’re interested in coaching and want to learn more about how I can help you Excel in your career as a leader without sacrificing your home life or your values in the process, then reach out to me. Send me a message. I offer a free consultation call where we can talk about your goals, how we can help you, and determine if we are a good fit. So I’m going to link a number of podcast episodes and how to get the one-on-one framework in the comments. So some of the other podcasts that you may love are reporting to a new boss, the perfect one-on-one framework, how to be an awesome boss, and the one leadership behavior you need. So I will link those in the show notes so you can listen to them if you haven’t already. All right. Have a wonderful week, I will see you here, same time, same place, next week.
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